Monday, September 14, 2009

My studmuffin!

This is my man.

I've been thinking about how I treat my husband. I've been reading two really good books lately (Love and Respect and For Women Only - both highly recommended) and been convicted about how I talk about and treat my honeybun, especially in public or in front of the kids.

To be honest, sometimes he acts like an idiot. He's human, just like me, and I sometimes act like an idiot too. We're both sinners, saved by grace, and it's no surprise when we act like fools.

But my reaction to his failings (which are few - he is a fantastic dad and partner), is not what it should be. It's like I don't want anyone to think I'm approving his behavior or that I think what he's doing is okay. So I frown and purse my lips and make a show of my disapproval. Just so everyone knows that I agree with their assessments.

And sometimes, it's not really a failing or a sin that makes me cringe. It's just that he's being dorky. Or silly. Or trying that atrocious British accent in public. Or just basically not me. And I still want to disengage. To let others know that I'm really not WITH him. That I know he's being a dork.

But that's not what I'm supposed to be doing. I'm supposed to be his helper, his cheerleader, his encourager and biggest fan. Even when he's being a dork. Who cares what others think? Am I more worried about their opinions or the those of my God and my man?

So from now on, I stand by my man. Horrid accent and all.


Vanessa said...

I do that all the time too. Thanks for the reminder to cut it out.

zekesmom10 said...

Always a good reminder. I want to encourage and support my husband. It isn't always easy to do. He deserves it and God commands it. Another thing I've been thinking about is the reverse. All we have to do is respect our husbands. Our husbands are supposed to love us as Jesus loves the church. WOW! Their job is to love *as Jesus loves*. That's incredible to me. That seems a lot harder to do than letting the geeky stuff slide once in a while.

Rachel said...

What a great post! I find myself slipping back into old habits when my husband is being dorky or like you said, just isnt being me. Btw this is Rachel (Herrington) Belknap. I linked to here from your FB page:)

bethany said...

just thought you'd like to know that i've read both of those books semi-recently (within the last 6 months). talk about conviction...